I am a woman and I am not ashamed

It has been almost nine months since I graduated with a bachelors in Sociology and Women’s Studies. Scary! Though I have always considered myself a feminist I haven’t posted much online which is specifically feminist, (mostly because until recently I didn’t post much online anyway). However, today I decided I would share a poem I have written called “I am …”.

My aim for this post is to get you to consider how society has constructed us to see ourselves and women. There are many expectations of what a women should or shouldn’t be and when we go against these ideals we are penalised. Phrases like “that’s not ladylike” and “you’re such a tomboy” do just that.

I would like to point out that this post is about my own experiences as a woman. Therefore while I believe that feminism should include reference to intersectionality, I have only commented on intersections that have effected me personally. I encourage my readers to comment and share their own experiences and how this relates to their intersections.

We are constantly labeled yet these labels rarely fit. Otherwise these labels are considered to be our whole identity when they are really only one part of us.

I am a woman, and I am not ashamed.

I am my gender, because that is what society has determined.

I am my sex because that is what people see.

I am unique even when you try to label me.

I am determined even when you try to stop me.

I am strong, like many other women I know.

I am brave, like a warrior.

I am young but I have experienced life

I am beautiful but that doesn’t give you a right to my body.

I am queer, but I’m still figuring out what that means.

I am vegan since I am against all oppression.

I am privileged since I am white.

I am worthy of my voice so don’t silence me.

I am proud of who I am even when you see me fail.

I am loud or do you just notice when I am not quite.

I am adventurous or are you just standing still.

I am depressed at times, so understand me.

I am strange at times, so laugh with me.

I am all of these things but I am so much more.

I am me and I am not ashamed.

Who are you?

 

I will be continuing this post through Twitter using the #Iamafeminist, so please get involved or comment below.

 

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63 thoughts on “I am a woman and I am not ashamed

    1. Thank you for commenting. It’s really sad how much work we do yet get so little in return. but we need to keep reminding each other how amazing we are. I’m so glad you felt this was reading my post

  1. This a beautiful poem. Every women (and men) should never feel ashamed of who they are. It’s liberating to just be YOU and there’s nothing wrong if you choose to be ‘you’. Embrace it.

    1. Thanks for your words Carmen. It’s something I think we often forget and sometimes need reminding of.

  2. Wonderful said. I am a woman. I wish I was more confident of who I am. Because society brainwashes you that you should look in a certain way to be pretty, I lost my confidence when I started gaining weight. I have to remind myself that everyone is different and that we all have our strong and week traits.

    1. Exactly. Society tells us to be ourselves but then punishes us when we do. I really hope this helps build your confidence.

    1. It can be difficult to help others know their worth but with a positive role model like yourself I’m sure she will.

    1. Thank you. I hope so and I hope it will encourage people to look at the way we think of people (either individually or as groups)

  3. I do not identify as a feminist. I do resonate with one of your points “I am proud of who I am” everyone should be proud of who they are – great point!

  4. Beautiful post! No one is just woman thing, though society likes to define us by what we do. We’re always stronger than we know ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Exactly, what society tells us about ourselves is so warped.
      Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it

  5. I love this list. You are who you are, undefined by what society tells you to do. I can see that you try to just live life for you rather than what society tells you that you need to do.

  6. This is such a great post, I love how you have constructed things. We are definitely all unique. I have to admit I sometimes think I am a feminist and sometimes I’m not sure in some ways. Perhaps I might just say I’m an equalist instead and just want equality for all does that count?

    1. Thanks Sarah for the positivity.
      Feminism is the fight for equality for all regardless of gender. The issues faced by men are due to the patriarchy, they are the same issues just presented differently. Feminists are equalist but has a deeper meaning.

  7. Such a powerful thought. I have to admit I sometimes think I am a feminist and sometimes Iโ€™m not sure in some ways.

    1. If you support equality you are a feminist. There are many different branches of feminism and different interpretations of each of these branches

  8. I love this poem – super empowering. We should not be ashamed to be a woman, we should be seen as equal, but I know we still have a long way to go to be heard and treated as such.

  9. I loved reading this poem! It can be easy to belittle ourselves or hold back from being ourselves and this is a great reminder of the importance of being proud of who you are and what you stand for. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. I’m glad you enjoyed it. It really can be hard to remember some of those important little things that mean so much. but if we stand together and remind those around us that it is ok it is easier

    1. Thank you, I believe that if we can’t be honest about ourselves we can’t be who we really are and that is sad

  10. This is a beautiful poem! Society has shaped people to believe in so many labels but as long as we are being true to ourselves and happy, that is all that matters. There are girls on my daughter’s elite dance team that are beautiful, graceful dancers that run in from a field hockey, lacrosse or street hockey game. We are never one thing, we are many and we need to be proud of that.

    1. Love hearing that, just because you are one thing (ie a dancer) doesn’t mean you can’t be another (lacrosse played).

  11. I am a mother and a damn good one at that
    I am a friend, loyal and loving to my extended family
    I am a partner, creating a lobing environment
    I am my own woman, fearless and confident

    Thank youf ro sharing. That was beautiful. And I love that wall!

    1. I am happy, to read your comment
      I am honored that you continued the poem
      I am grateful to have a reader like you

  12. I have a tween daughter who is trying to figure out how she is. It’s such a tricky time of life, but this would be great to share with her. With maturity comes this acceptance.

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